Accommodation (e.g., expressing our own needs in a mealy mouthed manner, or not at all) permits us to live as imposters, doing the bidding of everyone except ourselves. If your life is spent in this fashion, the opportunity cost is immeasurable. How much happier would you be if you heeded your inner longing, instead of choosing to be “possessed?” A self-constructed box of silence serves everyone’s needs but our own. Living in service to others is different from existing in subjugation. Are things status quo simply because you don’t speak up?
Before you know it, an entire lifetime will have passed in the shadow of someone else. Dreams deferred, dismissed, and denied are locked in a hope chest for a day that never comes. The overly controlled who exist at the hands of controllers do society an injustice – they deny the world their true selves as a misguided way of honoring others.
In work and school, or any situation where I perceive others to have “power” over me, I behave in a very accommodating manner. In the face of power I negate my own intuition and desires, seeking to gain the favor of power or avoid conflict. Anymore, I see that I have been playing a game for sycophants, and that I will never find any kind of fulfillment on this path.